Thursday, September 26, 2013

How We Love Our Kids, by Milan and Kay Yerkovich

How We Love Our Kids:  The 5 Love Styles of Parenting is a must-read if you are a parent... whether you are a brand-new parent, or have been a parent for decades.  In a refreshing change of pace from far too many parenting books today, it takes the focus off  what the kids may be doing "wrong",  and puts the responsibility for good parenting on the shoulders of the parents, exactly where it belongs.  

Milan and Kay Yerkovich give us an in-depth look into understanding WHY we parent the way we do, what our individual triggers may be, and how best to work with our strengths.  They explain the pivotal that role our past experiences, and particularly our own nuclear family growing up, play in shaping the parents that we eventually become.

This was truly one of the most eye-opening books on parenting that I have ever read.  It was the impetus for much self-reflection.  While it was somewhat painful to delve so deeply into my own issues, as well as their causes, it was also an immense relief.  The book doesn't just identify what type of parent you are, and why.  It gives you the specific tools, resources, and encouragement to make changes and do better.... starting right now.

The one part of the book that I disagreed with (a small section on time-outs as punishment) was fairly easily overlooked, as the overall message and delivery of the rest of the book was such an important one.

This should be on every parent's book shelf.

I received this book for free from WaterBrook Multnomah Publishing Group for this review.